You may be experiencing: Loss of Trust; A feeling that you do not know your partner any more; Conflict; Separation and Divorce; Sexual Difficulties.
The main preparation we need before getting married is not necessarily practical, it is often psychological. We need to understand more deeply ourselves and our partner, what vulnerabilities both of you struggle with; where difficulties might arise and how to keep the relationship nurtured. I do not assume you know how to be in a long term relationship and therefore will explore the meaning of what marriage is to you both and offer some tools to guide you on your way.
With my long experience as a Relationship Therapist and as a specialist in Creative Couple Counselling I can help you either to stay together or to separate more amicably. Getting help from someone outside of your relationship by talking to a therapist makes it possible to find a way through your issues. I am continuously supporting my work as a Relationship Therapist by training with the best practitioners in this field. I have recently completed trainings with world renowned therapists Esther Perel (author of 'Mating in Captivity) and Terrence Real (author of 'The New Rules of Marriage').
WORKING WITH ME YOU CAN
“As women shut down their needs, they also shut down their sense of pleasure.”
― Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
Often couples focus too much on the act of sex and the statistics of it, e.g How often? This can get in the way of desire and freedom.
Every couple is unique and therefore I am not prescriptive about homework and tasks to do outside of the the therapy sessions.
The disappointment you can experience in your relationship is inevitable - don't despair.
You can meet with myself and a male colleague, highly experienced in couples therapy. www.couplescounsellinglondon.com. For information about fees for sessions with myself and a male therapist, please click on Fees and Contact.